How would you answer the question: “Are you successful?”
I know many people who would say that they are not successful; at least they have not reached success in the areas that feel important to them. I have been one of those people.
One day I asked myself “What keeps me from being successful?” It took me a while to come up with the answer, but I realized that I was holding myself back.
Why? Well, maybe I was afraid that when I started something I would fail. Maybe I was afraid that I was not “one of those people” who get everything they go after. Maybe I felt that I didn’t deserve success in life.
The truth is that I didn’t believe that I was able. I was not able to be successful, able to be happy, or able to fully enjoy my life. Does this scenario sound familiar to you?
If you want to be truly successful in life (and who doesn’t?), then first of all you have to learn to believe in yourself. If you do not think that you can be successful, then who will?
Life success does not mean that you will not fail, but it means that your mistakes will teach you something and show you a better way to get what you want.
These are the tips that have helped me get over the fear of being successful and finally believe in myself:
- Be positive.
Negative thoughts are like Miracle Grow for fear and self-doubt. Stay away from negative people and you will decrease the amount of negativity in your life at least by half.
Practice daily gratitude, write down all the positive events in your life, practice mindfulness and you will notice how your negative attitude will start melting away. Send had written notes to others expressing gratitude.
- Continually remind yourself that you are part of something larger than you.
Fear often has to do with worry about uncertainty, feeling out of control, and wondering what your life’s purpose is. When you realize you are part of a bigger picture, even if you don’t fully understand what that is, it’s easier to ascertain that you both deserve and need to be successful and happy.
You do the right things, you help people around you, you make being a good person a priority, and you know that this isn’t just about you—it’s also about the bigger picture that you’re part of. These thoughts always give me the courage to try something new and believe that my life is successful because of the doing, not the outcome.
- Take time to find your authenticity.
Do you have lots of responsibility? I’m sure you do, and I know that you are doing your best at doing what you have to do. But do you know who you are? Do you know what makes you happy? Do you know your passions?
Do you take time to reflect on your life and figure out your purpose in this world? Unfortunately, most of us get so caught up in responsibilities and goals that we forget to enjoy our lives.
No matter how busy you are, you must make time for yourself. It can be just 10 minutes a day, but this time must belong to you. If you give yourself the luxury of free time, then you will notice that the rest of your responsibilities will get easier.
You will be a better parent. You will be able to come up with creative ideas at work or business. You will be able to take better care of your health. You will reduce your stress and experience the joy of living.
- Create your success library.
Sometimes when we lose trust in ourselves we just need a little bit of inspiration to push us in the right direction. There are plenty of ways to find inspiration, but we forget about them when we need them the most.
Create a library of quotes, save articles and success stories that have inspired you, create a library of inspiring movies and videos, or create an album of your fun and happy memories. Turn to this library whenever you have self-doubts.
People are always afraid of what they don’t know. If you have a fear of something, you just have to educate yourself about it. It is like walking into a dark room. At first you feel scared and don’t know what to expect, but once you turn the light on, everything gets clear and simple.
- Live in balance.
No matter how important success might seem to you, it is still important to follow it with balance; otherwise your journey towards success will turn into an obsession that will ruin everything that you truly love in life.
Success is not a destination. It’s a journey, and it’s important that we take each step feeling grounded and balanced. Spend time with your loved ones, enjoy your hobby or follow your passion, take care of your health and grow spiritually. This is the meaning of true success, the one that you can achieve only in balance.
I think that everyone is able to be successful. It is your right and purpose in life to be successful in whatever you are doing. If you believe you can be successful, and you can have it all, then nothing will ever stop you from living a balanced and joyous life.